“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.”Johann Hari
Remember when dad scolded you for smoking that joint, or those times you stumbled into the living room to find your mom in tears because of your destructive love for alcohol?
Lectures would follow suit, but the problem wasn’t the horse fodder you were learning about the root of addiction and all those sermons about the lie that being sober was the key to avoiding the condition’s bittersweet bosom.
The problem was the degree of ignorance that the people around you had about the reason you were addicted. It’s more than just “alcohol is addictive because it feels good”. Three of the largest causes for addiction are a lack of emotional connection, a unique genetic makeup and the ‘addictive’ nature of drugs, alcohol and destructive behaviour.
The first is often misunderstood. You can’t help an addict that was raised out of love and emotional connection by negatively reprimanding them without understanding the root of the problem.
The second is a result of ‘bad’ genes. If your family has a history of addiction, odds are that you are more likely to become addicted to substances or destructive behaviours, regardless of your upbringing. This is according to psychiatrist Thando Sivile Melapi, and links to the third reason for addiction: if you’re a sucker for serotonin, you’ll be a sucker for the doses.
If you or anyone you know suffers from addiction, please get help. Seeking professional help like therapy or psychiatric and psychological assistance is the first step to finding the root of the problem.